Hands up: who is happy with his or her boss? Most of the time, how has that person reached that particular position is a mystery to many, in many cases, to their teams. Can we replace him or her? Would we be good leaders? American author Peter Bregman seems to have found a new recipe for good leadership: its key elements allow to turn it into a short questionnaire to assess if we have what it takes to make good leaders. Three simple questions, starting all with the letter C.
1) Confidence. Do you trust yourself? This parameter doesn’t refer to ambition and presumption, but to a subtle talent much more difficult to have: to be able to take Care of ourselves. In fact, it is impossible to be confident when we constantly feel we need other people's approval. Our strength comes from our ability to be kind and tolerant with ourselves, especially when there are no positive signals by others.
Would you be a confident leader because you know how to take Care of yourself when it is needed?
2) Connection. Do people feel your trust even when you disagree with them? This kind of trust is a form of constant openness to others, it refers to the ability to give others the possibility to be themselves, even when they do things differently from how we would do them. Above all, it refers to the Curiosity that keeps your ears and eyes open, preventing you from rushed conclusions on the other person.
Would you be a leader who knows how to be Curious about others?
3) Courage. Can you take risks? A good leader is a person who takes risks, on the basis of his or her trust and openness to others. Taking risks means going beyond your comfort zone, accepting to be vulnerable for an undefined amount of time. Courage is an emotional dimension. It refers to being open to discomfort to explore new paths.
Would you be a Courageous leader, not because physically strong but because open enough to be vulnerable?
If you answered yes to all these questions, you deserve to know that behind those words – Care, Curiosity and Courage – the root is the same: they all come from the word “cor”, which in Sanskrit means “heart”. Yes, Care, Curiosity and Courage are all talents of the heart. To be a good leader, all you need is Heart.
(Article by Riccarda Zezza, CEO and Founder or Life Based Value, reposted)