Journalist Edie Lush meets Prof.Heather McGregor in Davos to talk about human capital, social capital and the ability to say no.
‘For centuries, Latin was at the core of western education precisely because it trains you to assess information critically, articulate ideas and convey them eloquently.
We live in world of hashtags, of broken sentences and fragments of ideas published on social media. It has become so bad that we might ask why even have language? With the advent of the emoji, pictures seem to do the job just as well — and they worked for our earliest ancestors.
It is ironic that the digital age should suffer from its own success. Language is powerful, but it has been subsumed into a revolution of liking and disliking, binary options rather than articulate responses.’
(Source: Financial Times, full article here)
The new way to ‘network’ is to give value, to someone else, without asking for something in return. Gary Vaynerchuk calls this 51–49. Jesus called it the Golden Rule.
It’s not new. It’s not even revolutionary.
Today, all it takes is a laptop and a few hours to create value for someone else. And if you repeat this process enough, someone will notice. Opportunities will find you.
"Add value in conversations’ is typical advice. This means making sure people walk away with a new idea, referral, intro, etc.
1. Convey genuine appreciation.
Actively project warmth and high energy. To make it clear you’re interested in the other person, think about what they know that you don’t. What do you actually want to learn in the interaction? Focus on that so that they can walk away knowing they added value too.
2. Listen with intent.
The focus you bring to asking specific questions about what’s being said in real time makes others feel heard.
3. Blue-sky brainstorm.
Maybe you can’t provide what someone is looking for. But, if you can change the angle or way they’re thinking about something by openly brainstorming with them, you make them feel like they got something special and unexpected. It’s key that you’re brainstorming with them, not for them."
Full article here.
'This is the new normal. Fighting it is pointless. Just get to the coffee.
Before 7am, when non-parents’ alarms go off still leaving them time for the gym before work, or maybe a couple of presses of the snooze button… what do we do?
We negotiate. Think Theresa May and her hard Brexit, but we are working on bed-exit.
At work, you mention that you’ve been up since 4.56am. “Have you tried putting them to bed later?” Of course I have. If you manage not to punch the smug faces saying this, congratulations.'
An article that should be read monthly as a reminder that we all here and there need to 'chill' and don't miss what matters most in everyday's life clutter. Good things do come.
Reading bites I loved most below:
'Genuine expertise belongs to an elite few. They seldom have superpowers. They usually have endurance, patience and take a long-term view. They also love what they do. If you find that, don’t let it go.'
'It is well established that almost nobody laments on their death bed that they didn’t spend enough time at the office. This seems obvious. Yet still we let contrived circumstances and fairly trivial issues keep us from important events. I wish somebody had schooled me about these priorities at 25. I can remember every sport day and certificate presentation I missed. I can’t remember any of the reasons I missed them.'
'If you have skills, commitment and passion, careers tend to take care of themselves. Over the long haul, it really doesn’t matter if you have a few years when your career is in canter mode while you prioritise young children. This should apply to men and women. I was watching some video of my kids when they were little last week and I realised, again, that the little people in that video don’t exist in that form anymore. They have grown into pride-worthy adults but the tiny people with wonder in their eyes were just passing through. If you miss that time meeting deadlines and finishing reports, you never get it back. Childhood is fleeting. When it is in its formative stages, you get one chance.
You can also miss the chance to learn. Children teach you a lot more than you teach them. They give you a second chance to see the world for the first time through their eyes. And you will be astounded what you miss in the clutter of life. Hold onto those times while you can. As the nun sang in The Sound of Music, you can’t keep a wave upon the sand. And you look kinda ridiculous trying.'
'Life is way too short to tolerate really bad bosses. If you find yourself working for one, unless you are desperate or starving, start looking for a new job. Immediately. Then sack the bad boss. By leaving.
'Take the time to understand what your business does.
I love the story of President J F Kennedy’s visit to NASA during which he asked a cleaner what his job was. The cleaner replied that he sent rockets to the moon. All of us should feel part of what our organisations actually do. We should take the time to be part of the big picture and always feel connected with the true objectives of our workplace. Don’t wait for someone to tell you or lament that internal communication is crap. Find out for yourself.'
'Even fairy-tale princesses recognise that you need to kiss a lot of toads before you find a handsome prince.
'Take some risks. Sometimes failing spectacularly is the best evidence that we are alive, human and serious about aspiring to the extraordinary. There is no value in being ordinary when you have the capacity to be remarkable.'
'Because here’s what nobody really tells us: yes, you need to be great at your job, but it may not be enough. Instead, networking has been called the #1 unwritten rule of success in business.
Your good work doesn’t count if nobody knows about it.
So developing the sometimes-dreaded personal brand is another key to getting the next great opportunity.'
Olivia Fox Cabane has lectured at Stanford, Yale, Harvard, MIT, the Marine Corps War College and the United Nations. As keynote speaker and executive coach to the leadership of Fortune 500 companies, she helps people become more persuasive, influential, and inspiring. From a base of thorough behavioral science, Olivia extracts the most practical tools for business, applying the latest in global behavioral science to everyday leadership needs to improve her clients' productivity, effectiveness and efficiency. In addition to being a columnist for Forbes and The Huffington Post, Olivia is often featured in media such as The New York Times, Bloomberg or BusinessWeek. She has been profiled in The Wall Street Journal as well as NPR’s Marketplace show. Olivia currently serves as Director of Innovative Leadership for Stanford's StartX program. Her course at Berkeley’s Business School was so popular that university staff had to guard the entrance to ensure that only the students admitted to that course gained entrance. Her first book, The Charisma Myth, published by Penguin/ Random House, went into second printing before it even launched.
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Sherry Turkle studies how technology is shaping our modern relationships: with others, with ourselves, with it. Since her pathbreaking The Second Self: Computers and The Human Spirit in 1984 psychologist and sociologist Sherry Turkle has been studying how technology changes not only what we do but who we are. In 1995's Life on the Screen: Identity in the Age of the Internet, Turkle explored how the Internet provided new possibilities for exploring identity. Described as "the Margaret Mead of digital cuture," Turkle has now turned her attention to the world of social media and sociable robots. As she puts it, these are technologies that propose themselves "as the architect of our intimacies." In her most recent book, Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology and Less From Each Other, Turkle argues that the social media we encounter on a daily basis are confronting us with a moment of temptation. Drawn by the illusion of companionship without the demands of intimacy, we confuse postings and online sharing with authentic communication. We are drawn to sacrifice conversation for mere connection. Turkle suggests that just because we grew up with the Internet, we tend to see it as all grown up, but it is not: Digital technology is still in its infancy and there is ample time for us to reshape how we build it and use it.
Turkle is a professor in the Program in Science, Technology and Society at MIT and the founder and director of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self.
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